Older Women Dating – What Attracts Younger Men To Cougars?

Younger women dating older men is not as uncommon as younger men dating older women. Cougar dating is however slowly becoming accepted by the society however weird it still might be to some. This sort of dating of course is between willing older women and willing younger men and there are plenty of reasons why older independent women love younger men. In the same line, there are a number of reasons why the younger men prefer dating older women and mentioned below are just a few of the reasons why the men find the cougars so attractive.

The maturity

Older women are generally more mature and therefore have less drama as compared to young girls and this is something the men find very pleasant. They do not fuss about small issues and neither do they end up interpreting every word or action personally. The older women know exactly what they want; they are actually busy with their lives and therefore have no time for drama and unnecessary fights. It would actually be right to say that the older women are not always insecure about their relationships because they set the terms and know what to expect.

The experience

Unlike younger women who may be in their very first relationship, the older women are experienced when it comes to love and relationships. They therefore are in a much better position to handle the relationship and to keep it burning. Apart from knowing how to handle the younger men, these groups of women are also very adventurous in bed and this is something that makes them very attractive to younger men. They are not shy to say what exactly they like and this takes the guess work off for the younger men hence everyone is happy at the end of the day.

The success

The older women are usually successful women who have their own money. This means that they do not need to rely on the men they are dating for anything and younger men love this. They can take care of their needs and possibly even those of the men they are dating. They also know the ins and outs of the different corporate worlds and their chances of introducing the young men into their success circles are high. The fact that a man can enjoy some career success hanging around the right older woman is of course quite inviting. The cougars are generally well rounded and can offer some help for younger men trying their hand at success.

The confidence

They may be older, but they are very confident, especially about their looks. They will of course do something to look appealing but they do not worry about their body shapes and all. For them, it’s either you take it or leave and this kind of confidence makes the women attractive. They wear clothes and jewelry they are most comfortable in and are not necessarily out to impress anyone.

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I Feel Like My Husband Thinks He Should Get Off Easy After The Affair

Many wives who reach out to me do so because they are not getting the response that they hoped for by their cheating husbands. Sometimes, he is reluctant to end the affair or to show much remorse. Other times, he may unenthusiastically end the affair and promise to try to save the marriage, but the entire effort feels sort of half hearted and seems to fall short of what the wife truly wants. Some wives will describe this as “taking the easy way out.”

Here’s an example. Someone might say: “I found out that my husband is cheating with a woman that makes deliveries to his office. She does not work at his office. She works for a company that stops in everyday to pick up packages. So he has to see her all the time. When I caught him, he agreed to end it and said that it didn’t mean anything to him anyway. He said that he knew that he was wrong and that he was sorry. He indicated that he was willing to step away from the front of the office when she came in for deliveries so that he would not have to see her. But these are really the only concessions that he seems willing to make. There has been no talk that he should perhaps cut off all contact or explore why he might have cheated. He’s not even given me a heart-felt apology or shared any of his feelings with me. He hasn’t told me that he will do anything to save our marriage – like my neighbor’s husband did. He’s not done romantic things or tried to show me what I mean to him. He hasn’t talked about counseling. It is as if he thinks he will simply say he’s sorry, step away from his desk once per day, and expect me to believe that I don’t have to worry about him cheating again. Honestly, I’m already worrying about that – as well as the idea that he hasn’t completely broken it off. And I find myself wondering if this type of anxiety and unease is going to be my new normal. Do I have a right to ask him not to take the easy way out?”

You absolutely have a right. (Although I suspect that many husbands in this scenario will tell you that they don’t think that they have it very “easy.”) They’ll tell you that it’s very embarrassing and shameful to be caught in this way. They’ll tell you that things will be awkward at work. And they’ll tell you that they are sorry, even if you assume that they are not. (I’m not saying that they are right here, but this is what they often think.)

Still, you have every right to tell your husband what you require to make this better. None of this was your fault and if you have things that need to happen in order to make you feel more secure, then you deserve for those things to happen. That said, he may not know about these things unless you tell him. As much as we might like for him to be able to, he can not read our minds.

And if he’s like many men, he won’t make any effort unless we require it of him. Because let’s face it. Human nature means that most of us want to make life as easy as possible – especially when it is painful or embarrassing to face up to our mistakes. That said, it’s understandable that this type of avoidance is unacceptable to you because it means that you can’t have the confidence that it’s safe to trust him. You’re only guessing or having blind faith because he hasn’t shared his thought process with you and he’s doing no work to explore why this happened ( as well as what might keep it from happening again.) And these things are NOT too much to ask of him, at least in my opinion (although I’m admittedly biased.)

You might have to spell it out for him by saying something like: “I’m glad that you’ve broken it off and have promised not to interact with her anymore, but honestly, that is not quite enough for me. I need for us to spend some time uncovering why this happened. I need to totally believe that you are genuinely and completely sorry. I’d like to discuss counseling at some point. This is a huge thing for me to process. It is going to take time, but more than that, it is going to take effort. I need to see that effort. I’m waiting to see that effort, because so far, I am worried that I am not going to see enough of it. Do you understand what I am saying? Is there a way that I can explain it better? Perhaps if you were able to put yourself in my shoes and ask yourself what you might need from me if I had been the one to cheat on you, that role reversal might help us.”

Allow him time to think about what you’ve said, but after that, you should see more effort. If you don’t, then you may have to speak up again until it sinks in that you aren’t going to settle for a half-hearted effort. Often, husbands need to be made aware of our expectations. I agree with you that you have every right to expect him to rise to the occasion.

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The Role of Meditation in Releasing Your Faith

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen according to Hebrews 11:1. In order for it to work for you, faith needs to be released just like a man releases seeds in prepared ground to receive a harvest in due season. Faith is key to your personal victory. Furthermore, it pleases God.

Meditation is about deep consideration, pondering, imagining, and visualizing something. God has given this ability to every man and woman. This is the ability to see things in the invisible. That is seeing with the eye of your heart or spirit.

How can you see results in your life using the Word of God?

“For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it.”(Hebrews 4:2).

For Word of God to work for you, mix it with faith. The Old Testament believers heard the Word of God ministered to them just as it is ministered to us. Even though they heard it, it did not profit them. It did not help them. Why? They did not mix it with faith.

In order for Joshua to succeed as a leader of God’s people in the Old Testament, he had to use the Word of God. He was given the Word. The Word of God can help you succeed today. Joshua was instructed as follows:

“This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.”(Joshua 1:8).

Joshua was instructed to observe the Word of God to do according to all (not selected portion) that was written in it. How was that possible? He had to first read and know it. That was possible through meditating on it day and night. He had to see God doing all that He had promised. He had to see that even when his physical eyes were closed. That is meditating. That is visualizing the Word of God. Joshua was promised prosperity and good success as he meditated and then doing the Word of God. If you will read and then visualize or internalize the Word, success will be yours from today onwards in Jesus Name.

Psa 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

Psa 1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

Psa 1:3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

The Psalmist here shows how the Word of God benefits those who meditate in it. That is those who meditate in it day and night. Those who give themselves time with the Word. Those who see the Word and allow it to form what it talks about in their heart and soul. They become like a tree planted by the rivers of water. They never wither. They never dry up. They are ever green. If you will apply this, prosperity is yours in Jesus Name. Beware of evil counsel from the ungodly. Protect yourself from words that disturb your faith. Delight yourself in the Word of God.

Learn to see the Word of God in operation in your heart or spirit. See God at work in your secret place. I believe that God had to first see the universe even before creating them. He saw it before it manifested physically. If you can’t first see what you desire from God having your optical eyes closed, you cannot see it manifesting in the physical.

Allow me to give you three examples:

1) The building of the tower of Babel

Gen 11:4 And they said, Go to, let us build us a city and a tower, whose top may reach unto heaven; and let us make us a name, lest we be scattered abroad upon the face of the whole earth.

Gen 11:5 And the LORD came down to see the city and the tower, which the children of men buildt.

Gen 11:6 And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.

Gen 11:7 Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.

These people were going to succeed in what they had imagined to do if it was not against the will of God. God testified that nothing would restrain them from what they had imagined. So He had to stop them Himself. Whatever you can imagine or visualize and get it in your heart, it shall be yours. See what the Word of God talks about. Then when you pray it out, power to collect it physically will be released. You cannot be stopped by anybody.

2) Woman with the issue of blood

Mar 5:25 And a certain woman, which had an issue of blood twelve years,

Mar 5:26 And had suffered many things of many physicians, and had spent all that she had, and was nothing bettered, but rather grew worse,

Mar 5:27 When she had heard of Jesus, came in the press behind, and touched his garment.

Mar 5:28 For she said, If I may touch but his clothes, I shall be whole.

Mar 5:29 And straightway the fountain of her blood was dried up; and she felt in her body that she was healed of that plague.

Mar 5:34 And he said unto her, Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague.

This woman suffered for a long time. Having an issue of blood for twelve years is not a joke. Not twelve months, but twelve years. An issue of blood even for a week is very serious. She had gone every where she could for a solution but to no avail. She had spent all her money without help. But the Word of God brought a turnaround. When she heard about Jesus, she heard that Jesus was a Healer. She took that Word and meditated on it. We hear that she spoke to herself that if she could touch the hem of Jesus’ garment, she would be made whole. That is meditation. That is visualization. She saw herself healed before experiencing it physically. If you will see yourself possessing what God has promised in His Word, it shall be yours. If you will see it with your physical eyes closed, you shall have it as yours in the Name of Jesus. She then took steps of faith and did what she told herself she would do. And she was healed. Look at what Jesus said, “Daughter, your faith has made you whole; go in peace, and be whole of your plague. (Mark 5:34). It is her faith in Jesus that made her whole. Your faith in the Word of God can do anything for you.

3) David and Goliath

1Sa 17:45 Then said David to the Philistine, Thou comest to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the LORD of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied.

1Sa 17:46 This day will the LORD deliver thee into mine hand; and I will smite thee, and take thine head from thee; and I will give the carcases of the host of the Philistines this day unto the fowls of the air, and to the wild beasts of the earth; that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel.

1Sa 17:47 And all this assembly shall know that the LORD saveth not with sword and spear: for the battle is the LORD’S, and he will give you into our hands.

The Israelites were harassed by the Philistines until David who believed God intervened. It is interesting to not what David told the Philistine. He told Goliath what was going to happen to him and his people before it actually happened. What do you think happened? David spent time with God. He knew the Word of God. He knew what God could do because of the covenant and the promises the Israelites had. Circumcision was a physical symbol or sign of the covenant God had entered into with them through Abraham. He saw in his heart God killing the Goliath. He saw his head being removed from him. That is meditating and visualization. I tell you. Whatever you can see in your heart first, you will see it happening in the physical. Just believe in God and His Word and you shall succeed in Jesus Name. Release your faith. Speak what you believe. You must do that after you have seen it in your heart.

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9 Universal Sexual Myths Among Teenagers

It is a time of grouping and fumbling and not all of it is in the dark. Much of the cobwebbed confusion that plagues the adolescent years exists in those teenaged minds as they try to come to grips with their own emerging sexuality. Because of the shroud of dark secrecy that has been flung over the subject, half truths about sex tumble over self delusions and jostle with antiquated falsehoods – adding to the turbulence of these troubled years.

Here are the most common misconceptions about sex among teenagers:

Will kissing make me pregnant? Is withdrawal safe enough not to make me pregnant?

Is my penis too small to satisfy my girl and me? Will sniff pf cocaine take my ‘performance’ to the heights?

Question, question… they abound inn those perturbing pubescent years! And neither stretching your imagination nor asking you cleverest classmate provides satisfying answers. Or even the right ones! Below, a compendium of the confounding sexual myths that blight the teenage years and the ‘whole truth’ answers:

Myth #1: Masturbation Is Self-Abusive, A Dirty Word, It Makes You Week and Adversely Affects Sexual Enjoyment

No other form of sexual activity has been more frequently (or secretly) discussed among teenagers, more roundly condemned by their parents and more universally practiced by both generations.

Some teenagers, both boys and girls attribute anything that goes wrong from acne to falling hair, to the fact that they masturbated, thus providing regular punishment for the enjoyment of a perfectly natural activity. What’s worse, ‘weakness’ has also been connected with masturbation. Finally, the semen is thought to be a very precious fluid of which each man has only a limited supply, and therefore its loss, through masturbation, it is feared, may cause them to lose their potency.

Actually, the semen is just a glandular secretion and in a healthy male the testicles are capable of producing semen whenever required. In olden times and even now, in certain communities, girls and boys married at 16 to 17 and cohabitation certainly did not, and does not make them weak in any way. However, a 25 year old unmarried man who masturbates fears physical weakness is an illogical fear.

Many teenage girls, too, suppress the urge to masturbate because they fear it will hurt them, stop menstruation, retard breast growth, make them infertile, rupture the hymen or adversely affect their capacity for sexual enjoyment later in life.

Like boys, some girls also feel that the urge to masturbate is a sign that they are “abnormal” in some way. These disturbed feelings may manifest themselves in the form of psychosomatic symptoms like headache, giddiness, shivering and breathlessness. Some girls even worry, that masturbating could make them pregnant. And if this feeling coincides with missed periods, which sometimes happens in the early menstruating years (because the hormones take time to adjust), they may even get neurotic and contemplate suicide. Sometimes it’s the tension and worry that bring on amenorrhea.

However, the manual stimulation of the clitoris or by any other soft object like a towel does not cause damage. Nor will manual stimulation of the vagina rupture the hymen.

Finally, there is nothing abnormal about masturbation unless it interferes with normal daily activity or becomes an obsession, what is abnormal is its unnatural suppression.

Myth #2: Is It Abnormal To Have Sexual Fantasies?

From adolescence on, fantasies become the order of the day or become the order of the day or are kept a closely guarded secret is the fear of being met with disgust and contempt. In girls, they are at first usually romantic fantasies about dating idolized figures like film stars, pop singers, models, teachers, doctors etc. Sometimes, they are more explicit or ‘bold’ involving situations such as stripping, violent sex and rape.

Among boys, the fantasies are more structured. They may feel mentally “size up”, feel and enjoy the parts of a girl’s body, and they often go the extent of fantasizing the whole sexual act.

Such “pastimes” involve the fantasizing teenagers with acquaintances or friends in intimate sexual activities, which dreamer would find unthinkable in reality, and certainly embarrassing, even hurtful, to reveal. In a girl, any fantasies that involve her father or a father figure are nearly always severely suppressed.

It is natural for teenagers to fantasize about those in their immediate environment (family school, college and neighborhood) because of their limited exposure the outside world. In fact, to some extent, fantasizing is helpful is shaping a healthy sexuality provided the young boy or girl is not obsessed with them to the extent that they interfere with normal life. Sexual fantasies are no more dangerous than any other kind of day dreaming which also shows an upsurge in adolescence.

Myth #3: Genital Discharge Adversely Affects One’s Health

From puberty on, most young men naturally have nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). This often happens when the mind has been sexually stimulated during the day, or on the other hand, because of an accumulation of sperm that need to be released. Often, it is a combination of both. This induces a secretion of the prostate gland, a secretion which serves as a nourishment, a vehicle and a safely cover to the sperm. Many teenagers feel this discharge is abnormal and that it makes them weak and ill. This again, like the mourning of the loss of semen in masturbation, is not called for, since this emission is just a glandular secretion.

In women, the nocturnal emission is not as profuse. It is much less, of a more watery consistency and manifests itself as a slight wetness. Manu girls feel embarrassed about it and some even say they feel weak. Actually, it is sign of a healthy sexuality.

Myth #4: The bigger the pennies/vagina, the greater the sexual satisfaction

Many boys and girls have spent tense, tear ridden early teenage years worrying about the adequacy of their sexual organs. Many young girls, after their first painful, even disastrous sexual experience, spend miserable months or even years try to cope with the illusion that their vagina is ‘too tight’ or ‘too small’ to accommodate the penis. Most fears arise from ignorance about the working of the genitals. As with the male penis, during sexual stimulation the vagina also undergoes definite changes. The muscles of the vaginal opening relax secrete the vaginal fluid which serves as lubrication an, in proportion to the sexual stimulation, the depth of the vaginal cavity increases. Worry (arising from fears about the size of vagina) will not allow these changes to take place. The resulting nervousness and anxiety render the vaginal muscles rigid and impenetrable. This leads to painful intercourse, setting the stage for vicious cycle.

Among boys, most worries concentrate on the length, shape and other dimensions of their penis, the more powerful the sex drive and the greater the ability to achieve and maintain an erection. In fact, an abnormally large penis can cause women more sexual discomfort than pleasure. Also, penis which is small in the flaccid state increase in size for more than larger genitals during an erection. Besides, it is the upper third of the vagina that is most sensitive, and the upper two third that dilates to hold the penis firmly. The lower third of the vagina, the orgasmic platform’, does not dilate and so sexual satisfaction is unaffected if the penis does not reach there.

What’s more, it’s not the vagina that is the primary center for the woman’s sexual sensitivity; it is the clitoris, located at the junction of labia.

myth #5: The First Experience Is Always Painful

Many girls get the impression from books, friends and relatives that the first sexual experience is extremely painful. The fact is that most first experiences are hasty and lack adequate foreplay. This inhabits sufficient vaginal lubrication and makes entry into the dry vagina painful. Besides, inadequate foreplay makes the girl less responsive and receptive and the teenage boy, in an attempt to assert his masculinity or dominance, may use force, making it even more painful for the girl. The vagina only becomes ready to accept penis at a fairly advanced stage of sexual arousal and this is some time after it gets lubricated. An understanding partner can help to minimize the pain to a great extent.

Myth #6: Sexual Enjoyment Can Be Enhanced By Stimulants Like Drugs And Alcohol

Millions of teenage boys have wasted heir parents’ money buying various drugs in the hope of increasing phallic length, and the duration and frequency of the sexual act, in general, to enhance their sexual prowess.

Women are not as interested in aphrodisiacs because, with them, emotions play a major role. Besides, most women see themselves as passive partners in sex. However, some girls do take drugs to increase their desire. The role of most aphrodisiacs is doubtful as desire has much to do with the state of mind. Some, like Spanish fly and mescaline, do work, but their side effects are hazardous, sometimes even fatal.

Drugs apart, many teenagers use alcohol as a sexual stimulant. In small quantities, alcohol does help reduce inhibitions and anxiety and thus heightens sexual arousal. But in larger doses because of its lulling effect on the nervous system, it decreases the sensitivity of the sexual organs and, later, the capacity to maintain an erection.

Myth #7: Menstruation Is Dirty

In earlier times, a menstruation girl was expected to hide herself lest she contaminate everything she touched, get near the crops and damage them or even sour the milk. She was also not allowed to bathe wash her hair, swim, exercise or have sex.

Today, although, these practices are rare in cities, the feelings, consciously and subconsciously, persists, that there is something ‘dirty’ about menstruation. And mothers, who have grown up in ignorance, often manage to convey these feelings even to their own teenage daughters.

The myth about menstruation being ‘dirty’ arises from ignorance, even among educated city dwellers, about what it signifies. From puberty on, every 28 days, a women’s uterus prepares its lining to receive a fertilized egg. If an egg is fertilized, it implants itself in the wall of the uterus, marking the start of pregnancy. If the released egg does not get fertilized, however, the lining begins to shed itself. The falling hormone levels lead to changes in the blood vessels of the linings and the cellular debris is then discarded along with some blood, through the vagina. That is what menstruation is all about an, far from being dirty, it is a mark of womanhood and signifies a woman’s capacity to become a mother.

Myth #8: Kissing Makes A Girl Pregnant

A 15 year old girl was quite unnerved when a boy she was just beginning to like kissed her. Her parents had instilled in her that “associating with a boy in that way” could make her pregnant. When she coincidentally miser her periods (perhaps due to the tension) she got so paranoid she even considered suicide.

The fact is that kissing never made anyone pregnant, if it did, we would have had a population explosion on our hands some centuries ago. Artificial insemination apart, the only way a man can make a woman pregnant is through sexual intercourse with contraception (or without food proof contraception).

Myth #9: A deep friendship with a person of the same sex makes you a home sexual

During adolescence there is a tendency to ‘gang up’ with friends of the same sex before entering into a healthy heterosexual relationship. At this time teenagers also develop a belonging with the peer group than with parents and elders in the family, its natural assertion of an emerging self identity. Many teenagers may then single out one person (of the same sex) whom they identify with, this is a healthy step in the progress to heterosexuality. In most cases, it is a passing phase. Of course, if this interest and closeness does not eventually transfer itself to the opposite sex, and if it is accompanied by aroused sexual feeling towards the friend, it calls for professional counselling.

We ‘humans’ have got the life a billion years ago. There have been five mass extinctions in earth’s history. We are living through the sixth. And now we too are running at a pace to end it all. This time it will be our fault.

The new discoveries and inventions have made our lifestyle full of convenience. But our bodies require work. Just like the sedentary water starts smelling, the sedentary lifestyle has given rise to many chronic diseases like the heart problems, diabetes and hypertension.

Today, the health researchers are suggesting that most of the chronic diseases that have appeared in man’s life are due to STRESS. From where it has come. It is the bi-product of our so-called modern lifestyle.

We are standing at the edge of cliff. Immediate actions are required to bring back the healthy days. We must incorporate exercise, balanced diet, sound sleep, and the most importantly happy and positive thoughts to our lifestyle to get rid of all health problems.

I believe “The opposite of great truth is also true.”

Day and Night, Work and Rest, Art and Science… they all looks opposite but my viewpoint is they compliment each other.

The more you relax, the more you active. Life is a balance between what we can and what we cannot. Learn to live between effort and surrender.

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Why Do I Feel Like There’s Something My Husband Is Leaving Out About Wanting a Separation?

Some husbands who ask you for a separation figure the less you know, the better. These husbands will purposely be vague with their information. Sometimes, they do this because they are trying to keep from hurting you. Sometimes, they truly aren’t clear on their plans or on their reasoning. So they can not tell you what they don’t know. Some wives assume that this lack of information means something sinister or underhanded, or that it is something that they need to worry about.

For example, one might say: “my husband isn’t really giving me much information about his need for a separation or even how the separation is going to work. All that he will say is that he feels like he wants a break from our marriage. He will only say that he is not going to seek a divorce right away and that he thinks that we should just handle the issues as they come. He will tell me that he is looking for an apartment, but he won’t say where. The thing is, my husband is not usually so secretive. He’s typically a pretty open guy. That’s why I feel like he’s not telling me everything. I have tried to ask him about this, but he gets frustrated and insists that there is nothing really to tell. He swears that there is no one else and that there isn’t really any master or sinister plan – other than he just wants to take a break. I wish that I could believe him. My husband is typically not someone who withholds the truth. He’s usually pretty straightforward. Which is why all of this is a little weird. Is it possible that he is not telling me the whole truth or the whole story? Why else would he act this way?”

Anything is possible. And I’m certainly not going to try to tell you that men never lie to their wives when they seek a separation. I can’t say that some men who do this aren’t having affairs, haven’t already seen a divorce attorney, and haven’t already made long-range plans. There are certainly some men who have.

But, there are also men who have not. You indicated that your husband was usually truthful and straight forward. So you have to ask yourself if your suspicions just stem from the understandable fear and confusion that you feel right now. Or whether you have seen any concrete evidence which would tell you that you are right.

Because honestly, I had these same suspicions with my own husband. He kept most information to himself when we separated. It turns out that there was no other woman or no master plan. Looking back now, I think he kept information to himself in an attempt to keep me from making more a pest of myself than I already was. At that time, I was so scared and paranoid that if you had given me one crumb of information, I was going to run with it. I was going to assume the very worst. If my husband had told me that he was going out with friends, I was going to assume that he was trolling bars for other women, even though this was certainly not true.

At that time, my inclination was always to think the of the most horrible scenario that I could possibly imagine. So I think that he was trying to protect me or to tone down my pessimistic thinking by keeping things close to the vest. (Incidentally, I actually think that this sometimes makes it worse. Because if people don’t give you a true version of reality, then sometimes, you end up making up your own version – which can be a version far worse than reality.)

Sometimes, what you are seeing is a combination of your husband trying to protect you and also the fact that he truly isn’t sure what he’s doing. He may well be just trying to take things as they come. Honestly, this process can be just as overwhelming for the husbands who are seeking the break. It can be too much to think deeply about the details – so they truly are flying by the seat of their pants. They aren’t telling you details because they themselves don’t really have any details.

I know that this doesn’t necessarily make you feel better. I have been there. I know that this is very difficult. But, time does have a way of showing you the truth. If there is something that he isn’t telling you, then you will find out soon enough. But being suspicious or pushing will often just make him pull further away from you. I know this from experience.

I would suggest just casually trying to glean information from your conversations and interactions. He shouldn’t feel like you are grilling him, but when you can work a natural question into the conversation, go ahead and do so. His response will tell you how much further you can go. I know that you deserve more information. And if he has it, there is nothing wrong with asking as you are able to. But sometimes, he truly does not have the information to give you because he doesn’t know himself.

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The Next Generation’s Bathroom Design With Travertine Tiles Would Make the Womanhood

If you want a profitable outcome of house decoration or remodeling, then Travertine tiles would be the right choice. The form of limestone has versatile application in homes. As a home’s soul is surrounded by the woman, therefore, this sophisticated and reliable item can make your selection strong. Here, the people can get some inspiring examples of travertine slabs’ application. What would be the matching color, what should be the lights and what is travertine’s best formation are delivered for you.

Bathroom visualization:

When you are seeking your upstairs bathroom, then you must know the successful plan to organize it incredibly. A quality installation can upgrade your upstairs and downstairs bathroom. Some of the unique products of modern fad can enhance the beauty and attraction of the place. Generally, builders use chip flooring material, which makes the floors rigid. Therefore, the limestone form can be a great alternative to developing the quality house. Whether you are trying to get a healthy and hygienic lifestyle or you want to get relief from complicated cleaning, tiles are the best option of modern day.

Travertine tiles can be used on floors, walls, and backsplashes. Thus, anybody can remove every below standard items from their place. The soft colors of the tile can make you thoughtful about the cleaning, but you must experience the surface and other details of the slabs. The glossy surface and beautiful design of the tile hides the drawbacks of the light color so that owners must not carry the cleaning problem even if their pets make any accident. You can use larger basins, hanging racks, tubs, and Jacuzzi on the travertine base. White or yellow LED lights would progress the outcome. If you are not satisfied still, then add some carpet, curtain and flower vase to beautify the separated areas of the bathroom.

Kitchen’s d├ęcor:

When it comes to applying the limestone form, then people are thinking of its color. Therefore, this article should inform that Travertine tiles have different dark colored items as well. Yet, you can use the light colors as a kitchen backsplash or wall covers. The Tuscany storm or walnut slabs would push the beauty of wooden cabinets. You can use the white cabinets, countertops, and other accessories to create the sophisticated backlog. The whites around the kitchen would be completed with Roman Vein Cut Honed travertine base (6x24blocks are applicable).

The professionals are important to choose the Travertine tiles for different spaces of your house while your concern is quality.

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My Spouse Says He Will Break Off The Affair If I Promise To Take Him Back

You would think that when your husband is caught cheating, he would realize that he is no position to negotiate. Ideally, he would panic at being caught, apologize profusely, vow to give you whatever you need, and walk the straight and narrow from that day forward.

However, many cheating husbands try to push their luck a little. They may realize that there is something that you want. And they know that there is something that they want. And so they will try to negotiate or strike a deal.

One example is the husband who will try to tell his wife that sure, he will break things off with the other woman, but only if she will agree to take him back first. This leaves the wife in a tough position. Of course she wants him to end the affair, but why does she have to give him this guarantee? She might say: “I finally got my husband to admit that he has been cheating. He has denied it for months, but I knew that he was lying. I kept at him until finally one day he left his phone on the counter. Even after confronted with texts, he continued to deny it. But then I told him that I was going to call the number back and he finally admitted to it. I kicked him out of the house. And I told his parents. And they were so furious with him that they would not let him stay with them. I told mutual friends and he is not welcome to stay there, either. He is staying with his brother. They have a very difficult relationship. So my husband is very unhappy with his new living arrangement. In the three weeks that he has been gone, he has called me every day begging me to take him back. I asked him if it was over with the other woman and his response was: ‘it will be if you take me back.’ I asked him to clarify. He said that although he has not seen her since I caught him, he has not officially told her that he can’t see or talk to her anymore. He says he is willing to do that once I take him back and let him move back in. He hasn’t come right out and said this, but it seems like he’s keeping her on the hook in case I don’t take him back. That way, he won’t be alone. Honestly I don’t know that I am ready to take him back. I feel like he is rushing me and almost blackmailing me to take him back before I am ready. I want to see a lot more remorse first. And I want to know that he’s willing to end things with her regardless, because it is the right thing to do. Is this too much to ask?”

I certainly don’t think that it is too much to ask. The truth is, there is no guarantee for your marriage after an affair. No one knows how it is going to turn out. Some couples who vow to stick together and work things out don’t make it. The resentment and pain is just too much. Or one spouse just can’t let it go. And then couples who seem as if they are one hundred percent destined for divorce pull through and actually revamp their marriage.

The thing is, it is hard to know which category you are going to be in right in the beginning. You haven’t even yet tried to heal. You haven’t yet tried different things that might help you. So you have no point of reference and you certainly can’t make him any promises only three weeks after the affair was discovered. It seems to me that he is asking way too much way to soon. Yes, I am biased, but I think that most women would agree with me.

Of course, he doesn’t want to willingly understand this because he doesn’t think that it is in his best interest to do so. He wants to come home as soon as possible, so he is going to use whatever currency he thinks that he has. And he probably believes that what you want most is to know that it is over. If this arrangement is not acceptable to you, then you must tell him.

You might try: “I’m not comfortable with this. It would be rushing your homecoming by negotiating something that should happen anyway. But this I mean that in order to show good faith and a commitment to our marriage, you should break it off with her anyway. If you love me and are committed to our marriage, then I should not need to convince, shame, or negotiate you into breaking it off. As far as coming home, that should not happen until we are both comfortable with it and we have made significant progress. It has only been three weeks, so it is not even remotely possible that we could have made that much progress so soon. I need to see real progress and real good faith before I even consider your moving back in. Recovery after an affair is not a process that happens in three weeks. And you can’t pretend that it has just because you want to come home. Breaking it off is your decision. But I need you to make the right one regardless of your living status. I can’t even consider saving our marriage if she is still in the picture – no matter where you live.”

This should have to make things very clear to him. Any man who is serious about his marriage should not hesitate to break it off once he sees that you are not willing to negotiate. If he doesn’t, well then, that is a different type of information to tell you where his commitment currently lies.

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Natural Medicine Gives Hope for Women With PCOS

In today’s world, many women know what PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is, and this is due to the increasing prevalence of this condition around the world. While PCOS carry such a name due to the fact that there are many small cysts found in ovaries of women with this condition, there are also certain other symptoms and signs that might disturb their healthy life; infertility, symptoms of hormonal imbalance and irregular menstruation are few of them. These multiple small cysts disturb the hormonal cycle, which results in a serious hormonal imbalance. Also, with the time, this disease increases the risk of diabetes and heart diseases. This is why PCOS is a serious matter when it comes to women health.

Unfortunately, allopathic medicine, as well as western medicine, does not have a cure for PCOS other than the 500mg Metformin pill which is prescribed for every woman with this condition. We see that Metformin is a medication that is prescribed for two conditions; during Diabetes Mellitus type 2 and during PCOS. It is quite obvious that this medication is not very specific in treating or terminating this condition, which changes a woman starting from her appearance to her daily lifestyle.

While for many, the most effective treatment for PCOS is defined as the eating certain healthy foods, controlling the weight and doing regular exercises, in Ayurvedic medicine, we have a better definition. Actually, we have a better answer for this condition and it is a real cure that completely heals PCOS.

These medications are not artificial or synthetic. They are a complex of extracts from natural herbs, fruits, and seeds. There are several Ayurvedic herbal supplements to treat PCOS and they are;

1. Polycys

2. Cystomin DS

3. Femdays

4. Myo-inositol

5. Bacopa Medicated Ghee

6. Spirulina

7. Moringa Oleifera

Each supplement contains a blend of several herbal extracts or a single, very powerful herbal extract that has multifunctional abilities. These natural capsules participate in balancing the hormonal levels of women who suffer from PCOS. They improve and normalize the levels of LH/FSH ratio and maintain the menstrual cycle. At the same time, they also participate in maintaining other hormones of the body that are indirectly influenced by the female hormones at some level. These supplements can prevent irregular menstruation, heavy bleeding, and severe pain during menstruation while promoting the fertility. Acne, unwanted hair growth, and oily skin, which are due to increased levels of testosterone during PCOS, can also be effectively reduced with the use of this supplement.

Although there are many changes in the body to worry about during this condition, an increment of functional body stress and inflammation can also be noted. This is a result of broken balance between female and male hormones. But the herbal extracts in these Ayurvedic supplements play their natural wonders by increasing the level of female sex hormones and decreasing the levels of male sex hormones.

It might be surprising for you, how natural extracts from some well-known herb, fruits, and seeds can be the only answer we have got for PCOS so far. But it is true, and it is working. Hundreds of women already testify their health experience and their journey in getting back their normal lives just with the use of these supplements. According to them, the most amazing part is that these are natural medications and therefore, they do not have to worry about any side effects, unlike in any western medications!

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My Husband Never Defends Me Around Other People – He Never Takes Up For Me

In a good marriage, we would do just about anything for our spouse. A marriage is a relationship where, ideally, you would go to war for your spouse if you had to. People who are happily married generally have the outlook that they and their spouse are a pack of two and that they will defend that pack should anyone threaten it.

However, it can be difficult to stay with this stance throughout the course of your marriage. And when you see it starting to fade, you can feel resentment and confusion. A wife might say: “I never let anyone bad-mouth my husband. If someone insults him or criticizes him in my presence, I always defend him. The other day, my mom commented that he had not been very helpful when it came to my son’s birthday party. I immediately informed her that my husband had worked nearly two days’ straight and that he offered to help, but I told him to get his rest. However, when the roles were reversed, he did not do the same for me. I heard his mother criticize me at that same birthday party. She made a snide comment that I bought the cake instead of made it. This infuriated me. And my husband looked at me as she said it and he knew I was angry. But do you think he defended me? Nope. He just changed the subject. My anger would probably be petty if this was the first time that this has happened, but it is not. He really never stands up for me. At least not anymore. He will not join in the criticism, but he never corrects or shuts down the person who is criticizing either. It makes me very angry and it hurts me. I feel that it is your duty to have your spouse’s back. Even when I don’t agree with my husband, I always have his back. Always. It makes me wonder if he loves me as much as I love him. It makes me wonder if he is weak and cowardly. I don’t respect this about him. And I want to change it. How can I?”

I am not sure that you can (or should want to) change your husband’s core personality. But I believe that there are things that you can do to encourage him to display more of the behaviors that you are looking for. But first, I’d like to discuss why you might be seeing differences in attitude about this between yourself and your husband.

Differences In Temperaments: Just because two people are married, this does not mean that they look at life and at circumstances in the same way. Some people are just not confrontational. I know because I am one of these people. Now, I would always defend someone who is helpless and I would not stand by if the person doing the criticizing was being malicious or cruel. However, in some instances, I feel that it is best to just let things go. For example, my mother is a pretty negative person – about everything and about every one. She will criticize the most wonderful things, just to stay in her negative comfort-zone. I love her, but it is just in her nature to point out the negative instead of the positive. At this point in her life and mine, I no longer point this out all of the time. I have learned to tune this out. And I made the decision to let most of it go. Who knows how long I still have with my mother on this Earth? I don’t want to spend all of that time arguing with her about petty things. If she lived with my husband and I, and her attitude was affecting my marriage, then of course I would have to say something. But since I only see her occasionally and her comments do absolutely nothing to affect my bottom line, it is easier (and in my opinion more productive for everyone) to just let it go.

I make this point because I want you to consider that your husband’s non-confrontational temperament does not mean that he doesn’t love you. It might mean that, like me, he has chosen to just ignore the slights. He might feel that his mother is old-fashioned and although her cake comment was ignorant and catty, he is choosing to let an old woman have her opinions and not cause a big issue about it on a day that should be happy for his child. I understand his thought process somewhat.

Knowing When It’s Appropriate And Necessary To Speak Up: At the same time, sometimes someone is truly disrespecting your spouse and getting into a habit of treating your spouse badly. I believe that in this case, it’s appropriate to speak up. And the person who should speak up should be the person closest to the offender.

For example, early in our marriage, one of my husband’s uncles stayed with us for a short time. This uncle was a bit of a chauvinist. I was sick with the flu. But that didn’t stop the uncle for expecting me to wait on him. My husband ignored the request and got up to fix the uncle something to eat. The uncle replied that this was my job. And my husband – not in a nasty way – replied that in our household we both had that job, that I was sick, and that while we were in our house, we were going to do things our way. The uncle shut right down and he has never treated me that way again.

The point is, there is a fine line between things you can let go and things that are mean-spirited and likely to continue if you say nothing. If you feel strongly that you in a situation that just can’t and should not be let go, you can try something like: “honey, I feel that this is very disrespectful to me and harmful. I think that one of us needs to address it. Since you are closest to this person, I suggest that you need to be the one to address it. But if you would prefer it be me, then I will.”

This is usually enough to inspire your spouse to address things that just can not be ignored. But keep in mind that you have to be careful in these situations. Sometimes, saying something can start a war amongst family and friends and make things worse. So it’s important to choose your battles. But if the issue means a lot to you, there is nothing wrong with communicating this to your spouse.

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